Change->scary-> not liked -> avoided
Fear and its reaction on people’s opinions on situation
When people are afraid to deal with obstacles or problems
that come about, they avoid it because It means admitting that they were wrong
and coming to a compromise because they are afraid of the change that will
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everything you do has an equal and opposite reaction and every situation has a
solution
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People are more afraid of looking bad and being hurt than they are concerned
with the effect of the outcome on other people, its really quite sad, but we all do it, its part of being human. we dont want to get caught, its fight or flight. if we believe in it and really do want to stand for our ideas, then we fight for them until there is nothing left. the decisions that we make are a reflection of what we think will be best at that particular moment, and by looking back at them, we can see the entiraty of the situation and what we were thinking. usually we question why. why that? why that decision, could I seriously not have thought that through more ?? and then we beat ourselves up about it. but still that is part of what makes us human. it maks us who we are. the next time you end up in a simalr situation, you will think back to that moment, and ask yourself 'is this really what I want to do?? is it worth it??' but that part only comes with time, if we havent mourned and questioned our own decisions to the point of questioning who we are, then we havent gone through the mental state of loss and confusion that changes you. we cant sit around waiting for some life changing moment to happen, it doesnt work like that. we have to go out there and fight to be who we want to be, fight for your heart, and fight to not let the dumb things change you but for your own decisisons to change you and mold you into who you will become.
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The people who oppose the idea are usually the ones who will be negative in
their response to the outcome of the situation
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Every action has an equal and opposite reaction, and for every situation there is
a solution,
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People can understand two things in completely different ways and if you are
unable to understand both sides of what’s going on in the situation
I would also like to thank father Holland for coming to
speak to us, it was very enlightening, and made me reflect on my responses to
the situations that I encounter.
"People are more afraid of looking bad and being hurt than they are concerned with the effect of the outcome on other people."
ReplyDeleteWOW. You pretty much summed up human nature in one sentence. I like to think I do things because it is best fro the greater good of those whom I effect, but I know I oftentimes hide my true intentions this way. Its pretty bad. Thats why I like this Faith in Action group.... I feel as if it will make everyone check each other.
A.C.,
ReplyDeleteChange never comes easily --if it's your own or someone else's-- because it challenges assumptions we've made about the way the world works. Every time we honestly and with an open mind confront an idea that seems odd or wrong, we are putting ourselves at risk. In the end, we may still disagree with the challenging idea, but the process of wrestling with ourselves always brings us a bit closer to the truth.
Deacon deGravelles